Rules in Dating A Single Mom

Okay. So dating is not really my forte, I've tried and failed (miserably) in dating strangers and meeting new people. I've been so accustomed of going out with guys I already know prior to dating stage (i.e. guy friends). So basically, this dating stage right now is like walking on foreign land, land that is made even harder to cross with the fact that I already have a daughter. 

No, I am not ranting because its hard for me to get a date, having one is. Real problem for me are the guys who wants to date me. They keep on complaining (yes, it sounds like they are complaining) that I don't have time for them. I don't reply to their messages and such. 

Guys, c'mon. Act like men not like little boys who wants attention.
So since I've been ranting to myself about what I feel, I decided to just let it all out and write them down. 

Know that you are not her priority
You are not my priority so don't even try to make me feel like I should be sorry for not spending my free time with you. Know that you are not even on the top of my list to worry about.

My daughter will always, always be my top priority, not you. 

Never question the time she spent not talking to you 
Honey, if I don't reply to your messages, don't be mad, at least be happy I still read them. (Thank you viber and facebook for inventing that "Seen" feature) I you've been sending me messages and you no longer see that "Seen" after your message, be afraid. (lest move on, you're just wasting your time because I'm no longer interested.)

Know that I have my own life. You are just a part of it.

I have my own life you are just a mere speck in my life. Note, we are JUST dating, you DO NOT own me. Don't ask for more time, because I am building my career as well as taking care of my daughter. 

I love what I do.

Sad fact but 80% of my time is already spent on my career, the remaining 20% is for my daughter. Whatever free time I have, I always spend it with my daughter. So never ever question the fact why I don't spend time with you or why I am always not available. If you want to see me or spend time with me, make an effort. (I work in events, I'm always out, if you want to spend time with me meet me at one of my events and have coffee with me, just an advice) You need to understand my work, you need to understand the level of attention I give to my work. 

Don't be a wuss

I have very low tolerance on guys who act like high school boys. Enough said. 

Dating a single mom is not a walk in the park. Just because she's already got a kid doesn't mean she's open to date every guy who comes her way. We are not desperate women (majority of us anyway). She's been through a lot and being a woman who single-handedly faces the challenges of being a parent, we have very low tolerance on bullshit. Man up.